How to Begin 2019: Creating a New Beginning that Lasts

With the New Year just beginning, resolutions are rampant. Whether it be to try a new diet or to form more friendships this year, we all have an idea on how to improve ourselves this year.

The problem is, most resolutions don’t seem to work.

We’ll probably cancel our gym membership in the next two months and forget what Keto even means.

There’s a lot of controversy concerning New Year’s resolutions. It seems they are made with the best of intentions, but we often fall astray as the novelty of the holidays wears off and the normal routine of our lives reminds us that New Years is just another celebration.

But we start off with the best of intentions.


And that is what I want to talk about today. It is how to succeed in working on becoming an improved version of yourself at the beginning of this new year. Don’t make a resolution, make an intention.

The resolution to go to the gym every weekday is created with the intent to live a healthier lifestyle. The resolution to meet someone new is created with the intent to connect more with those around us.

A resolution, by definition, is created to be black and white. It is a set goal we want to accomplish. However, when we fail by a cheat meal turning into a cheat week or realizing that we haven’t responded to anyone in the past four days, we immediately assume failure.

The nature of a resolution is success or failure.

An intention is something more precious. It is an abstract concept. A goal that cannot succeed or fail but can be continually built on. The intent to improve mental health can be achieved by keeping a journal, practicing meditation or thinking positively.

When you forget or miss doing these things for a few weeks, you haven’t failed at improving your mental health, you’ve only acted less on your intent. The positive effects of spending months meditating and thinking positively don’t suddenly disappear when we neglect to work on our intention.


Intention gives you the grace that a resolution cannot. It allows you to mess up and doesn’t ignore the progress you’ve made in all the times you’ve acted on your intent. Intention doesn’t limit you to only meditating or eating healthy but encourages you to explore more avenues that strengthen your intentions.

So use this new beginning of a new year to recenter or wonder about your intentions. Do you intend on improving your physical or mental health, or spending more time with those you love or giving yourself some more me-time?

All of these goals are an intention. They are a path, whereas a resolution is only a temporary stop.

Leave a comment below on what your New Year intention is!

What Friendsgiving Means to Me

It might seem like the next big Pinterest craze, but I sure do hope Friendsgiving is here to stay! Friday, I hosted my first Friendsgiving! Company included my closest friends that go to university with me as well as my wonderful friends that went to different universities. It was wonderful to reconnect with everyone.

I’ve hosted a few other events, like Christmas parties, but this one to me just felt more important, and that meant I was more nervous! No longer were we a bunch of kids in high school acting like we don’t hang out every weekend, but we came as (semi) adults. We all cooked (or bought, but who’s checking?) our food and enjoyed our meal. We had a bit of a pie competition with over three pies. We ended the night by playing the classic “Taboo” and a personal favorite of mine “Wits and Wagers.”

I remember thinking during desert time how I truly have found “my people.” Here we are, a bunch of 18-year-olds, and we are able to have the best time just by being in the presence of one another. No alcohol, no loud music, no false laughs. We’re not the kind of people that spend time together just for the sake of going out or having a fun time (though we do a lot of both).Instead, we’re all really interested in making memories together.

Instead, we’re all really interested in making memories together.

And that is one of the things in my life that I am so grateful for. Friends who stick around just for each other. These friends are going to be there during our heartbreaks, our weddings, our job struggles and all the small little moments that make life worthwhile. Our Friendsgiving was more than just a night to spend time with one another. Each one of us showed the other that we were wanting to continue our relationship. As my first semester in college is coming to a close (wait for a reflections post soon!), I’ve learned it’s more important than ever to purposefully pursue those you want in your life. Because the biggest shift I’ve found in adulthood so far is that there are very few relationships sustained out of convenience. Instead, if you want incredible relationships in your life, it takes consistency and quality in your time together.

It makes the relationships I am sustaining now all the more beautiful.

I hope everyone had an equally wonderful extended holiday weekend filled by those they love!