With the New Year just beginning, resolutions are rampant. Whether it be to try a new diet or to form more friendships this year, we all have an idea on how to improve ourselves this year.
The problem is, most resolutions don’t seem to work.
We’ll probably cancel our gym membership in the next two months and forget what Keto even means.
There’s a lot of controversy concerning New Year’s resolutions. It seems they are made with the best of intentions, but we often fall astray as the novelty of the holidays wears off and the normal routine of our lives reminds us that New Years is just another celebration.
But we start off with the best of intentions.
And that is what I want to talk about today. It is how to succeed in working on becoming an improved version of yourself at the beginning of this new year. Don’t make a resolution, make an intention.
The resolution to go to the gym every weekday is created with the intent to live a healthier lifestyle. The resolution to meet someone new is created with the intent to connect more with those around us.
A resolution, by definition, is created to be black and white. It is a set goal we want to accomplish. However, when we fail by a cheat meal turning into a cheat week or realizing that we haven’t responded to anyone in the past four days, we immediately assume failure.
The nature of a resolution is success or failure.
An intention is something more precious. It is an abstract concept. A goal that cannot succeed or fail but can be continually built on. The intent to improve mental health can be achieved by keeping a journal, practicing meditation or thinking positively.
When you forget or miss doing these things for a few weeks, you haven’t failed at improving your mental health, you’ve only acted less on your intent. The positive effects of spending months meditating and thinking positively don’t suddenly disappear when we neglect to work on our intention.
Intention gives you the grace that a resolution cannot. It allows you to mess up and doesn’t ignore the progress you’ve made in all the times you’ve acted on your intent. Intention doesn’t limit you to only meditating or eating healthy but encourages you to explore more avenues that strengthen your intentions.
So use this new beginning of a new year to recenter or wonder about your intentions. Do you intend on improving your physical or mental health, or spending more time with those you love or giving yourself some more me-time?
All of these goals are an intention. They are a path, whereas a resolution is only a temporary stop.
Leave a comment below on what your New Year intention is!